Your question was answered on numerous occasions with some very good advice, in the end it was just going round in circles and going no where.
ok willl do, as far as i am aware threads are only usually deleted if some is being abusive or slanderous or a spammer of which i have been none. If you thought it was going nowhere it could easily have been locked.. But completely deleted without any fair or good reason?? Heavy handed is an understatement....